On Building the Village, Earth Reverence & “Where Are All The Good Men?” ~ Sacred Sons Convergence 9 Remembrance weekend

I haven’t known how to write this — something to summarize my time in ceremony on the Olympic Peninsula last month the first co-ed gather from the men’s group Sacred Sons Convergence 9.

But y’all are curious cats and I keep getting requests to share more — so let’s give it a go…

I’ve been quietly fan-girling Sacred Sons for years via Instagram and followed their work as an intentional “Expander” for what I (hoped) was possible around the kind of man I see myself with in partnership.

But here’s the thing…

It was just that – A hope. A wish. A prayer. It wasn’t grounded in any kind of certainty that “it” actually existed out there because I had no somatic experience to anchor in my body.

Everything feels so different for me after this experience.

Because now I’ve seen – felt – been held by – the kind of masculinity that I genuinely wasn’t 100% convinced actually existed.

Every time the women in my life ask me about Sacred Sons Convergence 9 – my eyes well up, hand goes to heart, but the words get all jumbly. The best I usually do is, “It changed my life.”

Then, of course, they want to know, “But what were the MEN like?!”

To which I have EVEN LESS words, because, my Goddess, how do you describe something that you’ve never had a frame of reference for up until that point?

But here’s the best I’ve got right now — the Men were REVERENT.

​📖 reverence {noun} ~ rev·er·ence: profound adoring awed respect

I watched men kneel on the Earth, hand to heart – hand to soil, offering prayers.

I watched men dip their hands in the waters of the sound, touch salty fingers to third eye and smile with love & awe as the sun rose.

I watched men rock my sisters in their arms and hum lullabies as trauma was released and rippled out — and then watched as they offered it all back to the fire and chose to show up again and again and again for the sisters to come forward with their hearts.

and it’s this, this Reverence — Earth Reverence which translates into Reverence of the Feminine…

that might be at the root of the whole thing.

I think what I’m learning as I unpack this experience is that maybe THIS, this EARTH REVERENCE, is what I {what so many women} mean when we speak about wanting to see “Good Men”

maybe what is meant in the cry for “WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MEN?”…

is actually a desire to see men in Reverence. In deep connection with the Earth. In awe of what Mother Nature is — in ALL Her forms.

But how much space are men truly given or invited into where they are called to BE IN REVERENCE?

This is why I feel men’s work is so powerful, and why I deeply believe in the reclamation that’s being made through Sacred Sons.

It’s spaces like this that are so important for all our men who have ALSO been wounded, subjugated, oppressed by the extractive capitalism that underpins the distorted patriarchy we’re all navigating ourselves out of.

in closing ceremony, one of the founders – Adam Jackson, said something to the effect of…

“remember, that for a moment in time, we created the VILLAGE”

and that’s what it was.

it was remembering what THE VILLAGE was, has been, could be, always will be.

And I’m 100% here for it.

👉 Be sure to check out Sacred Sons on Instagram and if you wanna join me {because I’ll def be going back} at next year’s Remembrance gathering — make sure you’re on the SS email list, too.